Geordie Shore

Tonight I met up with a tinder match for drinks (sparkling water for me – long story) let’s call him T. We’ve been chatting a while and made a couple of tentative plans to meet up but it hasn’t happened til now. We usually chat about training (both into fitness) and his latest obsession/guilty pleasure Geordie shore and work etc. 

The last two Sundays we were supposed to meet up for a drink somewhere nearby and both times we either forgot or didn’t text or whatever (Ja I know, so why bother at all right?) anyway so he said he’s got a present for me as a token of his apology. And we’ve been joking about it ever since. (Like pretending the present is actually a surprise wedding or engagement etc)

anyway I was teasing him about him standing me up twice and he was like oh Ja do you want your present! of course I said yes! 

So he scratches in his jeans pocket and brings out something and hands it over. A flash drive. 😳 so I was like ummmm what? Then I started laughing and said omg don’t tell me it’s Geordie shore. he just laughed and said it’s 4 gigs that changed my life and it will change yours. And wouldn’t say anything else.

We chatted some more and then it was time to call it. 

when I got home I rushed to plug the flash drive in and there it was – Geordie shore season 1 plus the specials 😂 

Am I a total dorkus that I found this whole thing super cute and funny? Maybe. But I like the thought process and the effort he made. 

As we were leaving he asked to see me on Sunday when he gets back from his weekend away so I joked and said, no you’re pretty kak with Sundays so he said well I’m off til Wednesday so let’s do Monday or Tuesday then. I would say that’s a pretty positive sign. 

Looks: 6/10

Personality 7/10

Chemistry 5/10


Over all, not a bad mini date!  

Update: saw him again and realised he’s shorter than me and has a small frame too. Didn’t realise that at first because we were seated most of the time. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with that but I’m not attracted. The chemistry just isn’t there. 

I’m happy that we’ve connected though 👌🏼 



Things people say to single people

So after being single for a while, you start hearing the same shit over and over from different people. I thought I would list a few:

1) You’re so pretty/awesome/great why are you still single?

I don’t know? Maybe because I haven’t found mr right yet? Maybe coz there isn’t anyone on the radar right now? Maybe because that’s not what the universe has planned for me at this time?

What a kak question.

2) The minute you stop looking, that’s when you’ll find someone.

Fuck off. Everyone is looking for someone. We are all looking, whether we acknowledge it or not.

3) This is the best time to focus on yourself.

Duh, if you’re single what else is there to focus on other than the stuff that makes up your life? Also, whether you’re single or not you should always be working on yourself so that’s just another poef saying.

4) I wish I was single.

Omg no you don’t. It’s a MINEFIELD. Plus, us singletons don’t need even more competition.

5) Maybe you’re too fussy

No. It’s not that.

6) Just don’t settle, whatever you do.

Yeah. I wouldn’t be single if I was willing to settle. Believe me.

7) Give it time, it will happen when you least expect it.

Legit not expecting it now. Oh look at that, still single.

8) Tinder, isn’t that a sex site?

No, normal humans go on there too. And as with anything where humans are involved you get the perves and the weirdos but mostly it’s just normal humans wanting connections. Varying levels of connections.

9) I mean, I doubt you’ll meet your husband on Tinder.

Stranger things have happened. It’s 2015. Online dating is a thing.

10)  I’m sure the guys must be lining up to date you!

Why do people say this?? If they were, it’s highly likely I would have found Prince Charming by now.

11) Don’t worry, he’s out there somewhere.


I know most of the time when people say these things that it’s meant well, don’t get me wrong, but lately I can feel an eye twitch coming on when I hear any of the above.

If you’ve got anything you think I should add, post it in the comments below.


It’s a freakin minefield out there

Today marks my 1 year and 8 months of being single. Here’s what’s on my mind right now.

Being single is a minefield. There are so many wankers out there who fall into the following categories (for the most part). Don’t get me wrong, there are nice guys and I’ll get to that now now, but first here are the bullets that need to be dodged:

– no strings guy

This is the guy that wants to go for drinks and then sex. He will not call, he doesn’t want a relationship and most likely will only respond to texts the day after and then fade out of your life. (If you just want a cheeky bangski then this is your guy, just don’t expect him to fall head over heels for you)

Why he’s dangerous: he might like you as a person, think you’re hot and really enjoy spending time with you. He just doesn’t want to date you.


This guy is in a relationship and looking for a side piece. He most likely will not tell you that you’re his side piece. Your investigation skills have to be on top form. You don’t wanna be a home wrecker.

Why he’s dangerous: do I really need to explain? Once a cheater, always a cheater. That element of dishonesty is a dirty stain that never goes away.

wants to have his cake and eat it

This guy kinda wants to date you, kinda wants to be your friend, kinda wants to be single, def wants to bang. He doesn’t know what he wants and that’s straight up not fair on you.

Why he’s dangerous: This guy will waste your time. Seriously – he will keep you on that line without any real commitment for as long as possible if you make it convenient for him. Don’t be that girl.

So what about the good guys? They are abundant. Don’t get me wrong. The gentlemen, the kind hearts, the guys who think of you as more than a walking vagina. They’re out there.

They’re either freshly single and not looking for a relationship. Either you have friendzoned them or they have friendzoned you. There’s no chemistry. They’re focusing on something else. Whatever. The list is endless.

Ultimately it comes down to this, if a guy wants to be with you, he will. If he doesn’t then he won’t. Does that make you ugly/gross/basic/stupid/undateable? No. It just means that he doesn’t want to be with you because it’s not what he wants. That’s his decision. Most times it actually doesn’t have much to do with you anyway.

Personally, this is something I struggle with. “Boohoo he doesn’t wanna be with me, there’s something wrong with meeeeee” but the more I think about it the more I realize there isn’t anything terribly wrong with me. I’m loved, I have amazing friends and family and a career and an apartment and a car and all sorts of things that make me happy. So why let my self esteem balance on someone else’s opinion of me?

This is a nasty habit I’m trying to break which I think A LOT of us single ladies are guilty of. I don’t need a man to validate me. You don’t need a man to validate you. Just because he doesn’t want to date you doesn’t mean you’re unworthy or not a great person.

We are powerful beyond measure but we need to realize it and embrace it. We have to be self assured. Confident. Strong.

It’s not easy. But it can be done.